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I'm a 17-year-old boy and I'm painfully shy. I can't face people confidently. I feel they don't like me by the way they treat me. I can't even go shopping alone because of this. Is this some kind of phobia or am I lost in my own created negative world? I'm easily swayed by my own negative thoughts which make me suffer all day long. Please help!
Shy boy / Shillong
Dear boy, as you have not given any information about your family background and upbringing it is not possible to know the reason for your painful shyness. A low self-esteem and inferiority complex may be the cause of your problem. Children who grow up in a negative family environment where they do not feel appreciated, accepted and encouraged may end up with a loss in self-esteem. Parents who tell their children: "You are a good-for-nothing" or "You will never come up in life" do a lot of harm to them and destroy their self-confidence. Loving and patient corrections will be accepted and valued by teenagers; harsh judgments will harm them. WHOM TO CHOOSE?
I like a 13 year old guy who has a 14 year old brother. I like both of them and I'm confused between them. The guy who is 14 has a best friend; she's a girl and I think they are in a relationship. But my cousin who is their friend tells me that they are only best friends. I'm confused about whom to choose. Help!
R.C. (13) / Ahmedabad
Dear girl, choosing a friend is not like choosing fruits or vegetables in the market, where you choose the best looking ones. Friendship is based on freedom, affection and mutual respect. You seem to be taking for granted that those guys will be interested in you: they may not be at all. If they are interested, try to be a good friend of both of them and many more (including girls). I MISS MY TEMPORARY TEACHER
Our English teacher was on maternity leave so we had a temporary teacher. I really liked her. I loved to be in her class but now our original teacher is back. I miss my temporary teacher. She was really nice. Now whenever I am in the English class I begin missing her. English was my favourite subject but now I am not able to concentrate. Please help.
Sad girl (13)
Dear girl, the primary purpose of going to school is that of learning. Teachers are appointed for this purpose and they may change from time to time. What matters is that they do their duty with competence and dedication. If your 'original teacher' is a competent teacher there is no reason why you should be unable 'to concentrate'. Your concentration should be on the subject, not on the teacher. I'M SHORT-TEMPERED
I'm a 15 year old guy. I don't know what happens to me sometimes. I just become so aggressive and short-tempered that I even show my anger in front of my father. I can't share my problems with anyone because everyone gets bored listening; even my best friends don't listen to me and one of them is not talking to me. I'm unable to concentrate on my studies. Please help me out.
Nikhil S. / New Delhi
Dear Nikhil, what is happening to you is what is happening to most teenagers: you are trying to assert yourself and your identity among the people around you, including your parents. You want them to realize that you are no more a child; that you are growing up and you too have ideas and opinions and want to express them. Your father is probably aware of this situation and is ready to bear with some aggressive and rude behaviour. However, if you do not become more polite and respectful you may end up upsetting your family relationships. Your friends too are probably facing a similar problem at home, that's why they are not interested in listening to you. HE IS NINE YEARS OLDER THAN ME
I have a cousin whom I like a lot. He also likes me but he is nine years older than me. Whenever I study or close my eyes he comes to mind. Please help.
Dia (14) / Mumbai
Dear Dia, your cousin is 23 years old and probably ready to start work or a career. He is an adult and probably has a girlfriend; you are just at the beginning of your teenage. He 'likes' you as a 14 year old girl belonging to his family while you like him 'a lot' and he 'comes to your mind' whenever you 'close your eyes'. These are unmistakable signs of you getting infatuated with him (which is common at your age). Do not make the mistake of "proposing" your feelings to him as it will upset him and your family relationships.
The Teenager magazine
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