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DR ANTHONY GRUGNI, MD, answers your questions
with concrete and practical tips to help you tackle
important and troubling issues.
I want to be popular |
I want to be the most happening girl in my class. Although I'm the topper of my class and a soft-mannered girl yet I'm not my teacher's favourite (this is what I think). Can you help me become the most popular gal in my class?
Kimy / Maharashtra
Dear girl, wanting to be "the most happening girl" and "most popular gal" in your class you desire to impress your classmates with your achievements (being the topper" of your class) and exterior qualities (being "soft mannered"). This attitude has failed to impress your teacher and will fail to impress your classmates too. They probably think you are very proud of yourself and act in an arrogant manner. The most appreciated qualities in a teenager are: a friendly and humble nature, a sound value system and good moral character. Let your inner beauty shine among your friends and they will love and appreciate you. |
My father is no more |
I'm a 13-year-old girl with two sisters. My father is no more and my mother is always sad. What should I do to make her happy?
Sad soul / jhansi, U.P.
Dear girl, a married man and woman are bound by a special and exclusive relationship of love as husband and wife. This is the necessary condition in order to become parents of children. Unfortunately your father is no more and your mother is painfully feeling his loss. You cannot replace your father in her heart, but you and your sisters should be close to her with love. Make her feel how much she means to you and you need her. This will give her a strong sense of purpose and meaning to life. Only time can slowly heal this kind of wounds. |
I am ugly |
I am 18 year old boy. I know it is normal at this age to check our look in the mirror thousands of times. But this is freaking me out... because I know I am kind of an ugly duckling. I feel very uncomfortable while in group of people. I don't know why but I always think what people will think of me? How do I increase my confidence level or should I change my lifestyle? Does clothing and facial appearance really matter?
Danesh / Mumbai
Dear boy, by looking "in the mirror thousands of times" you have concluded that you are a "kind of an ugly duckling". May be you have compared yourself with some hero of the movies, always surrounded by scores of beautiful girls, and concluded that you did not match with him. It is time you look at yourself from another perspective: that of real life. Human relationships are not just based on looks, but much more on trust, love, honesty, a good education, character and moral values. These qualities cannot be seen in a mirror but in your behaviour and heart. These are the qualities you have to develop, without wasting time looking in the mirror and losing self-confidence. |
Will it work? |
I am 13 and in Std 8. I like a girl in my tuition class very much. She is in Std 6. She is young but understands everything. I think that she likes me too because we both keep staring at each other all the time. I like her a lot but I am afraid of talking to her about this as she looks very innocent and I am afraid that she would complain. I am going to propose her after my last final exam paper. Will it work?
S.S.
Dear boy, my answer to your question is a loud and clear NO; it will not work. She is in standard VI ("She is young") and you too, though is standard VIII, are very young and lacking any experience of a relationship with a girl. As "she looks very innocent", your proposal will end up upsetting and confusing her. This is unnecessary and disturbing; it could also lead you into troubles if she tells this matter to her parents. Forget about proposals and just enjoy being her friend. |
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