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Helping Your Teen with
Homework Mary Gavin, MD During the middle and high-school years, homework gets more intense and grades start to matter more. At the same time, teens face a lot of other big changes. They're adjusting to the physical and emotional effects of puberty, while busy social lives and sports commitments gain importance. Parents can play a crucial role in helping teens handle these challenges and succeed in school/college by lending a little help, support, and guidance, and by knowing what problems demand their involvement and which ones require them to hang back.
Setting up shopMake sure your teen has a quiet, well-lit, distraction-free place to study. The space should be stocked with paper, pencils, a calculator, dictionary, and any other necessary supplies. It should be away from distractions like TVs, ringing phones and video games. Your teen may prefer to retreat to a private space to work rather than study surrounded by parents and siblings. Grant that independence, but check in from time to time to make sure that your teen hasn't gotten distracted. If your teen needs a computer for assignments, try to set it up in a common space, not in a bedroom, to discourage playing video games, chatting with or e-mailing friends, or surfing the Internet for fun during study time. Also consider parental controls, available through your Internet service provider (ISP), and software that blocks and filters any inappropriate material. Teach your teen how to look for reliable sources of information and double-check any that look questionable.
A parent’s supporting roleWhen it comes to homework, be there to offer support and guidance, answer questions, help interpret assignment instructions, and review the completed work. But resist the urge to provide the right answers or complete assignments. It can be difficult to see your kids stressed out over homework, especially when there's a test or important deadline looming. But you can help by teaching them the problem-solving skills they need to get through their assignments and offering encouragement as they do.
Make homework easier for your teenPlan ahead. Regularly sit down with your teen to go over class loads and make sure they're balanced. If your teen has a particularly big workload from classes, you may want to see if you can shuffle the daily schedule or limit after-school activities.
Establish a routine. Send the message that schoolwork is a top priority with ground rules like setting a regular time and place each day for homework to be done. And make it clear that there's no TV, phone calls, video game-playing, etc., until homework is done and checked. Instill organization skills. No one is born with great organizational skills - they're learned and practiced over time. Give your teen a calendar or personal planner to help get organized. Apply school to the "real world". Talk about how what teens learn now applies outside the classroom, such as the importance of meeting deadlines - as they'll also have to do in the workplace - or how topics in history class relate to what's happening in today's news.
Homework problemsHomework can really start to add up and become harder to manage. These strategies can help: Be there. You don't have to hover at homework time, but be around in case you're needed. If your son is frazzled by geometry problems he's been trying to solve for hours, suggest he take a break. A fresh mind may be all he needed, but when it's time to return to homework, ask how you can help.
Be in touch with school. Maintain contact with teachers throughout the school year to stay informed, especially if your teen is struggling. They'll keep you apprised of what's going on at school and how to help your teen. Don't forget study skills. Help your teen develop good study skills - both in class and on homework. No one is born knowing how to study and often those skills aren't stressed in the classroom. When you're helping your teen study for a test, for instance, suggest such strategies as taking notes and underlining while reading. Encourage students to reach out. Encourage your teen to ask for help, if needed. Remember that in school kids are rewarded for knowing the right answers, and no one likes to stand out by saying that they don't have them. Praise your teen's hard work and effort, and ask the teachers for resources for support if you need them. Don't wait for report cards to find out that there are problems at school. The sooner you intervene, the sooner you can help your teen get back on track.
Learning for lifeMake sure your teen knows that you're available if there's a snag, but that it's important to work independently. Encourage effort and determination - not just good grades. Doing so is crucial to motivating kids to succeed in school and in life. With a little support from parents, homework can be a positive experience for teens and foster lifelong skills they'll need to succeed in school and beyond.
Source: Kids Health
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