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Do you want perfect parents? Those who yell less and understand more? Parents who trust you and believe what you say? Like raising kids, perfect parents too can be raised, says LESLEY D. BISWAS.
I have seen many teenagers spend hours counting their parents' flaws. Not that they like doing so but that is all that they think of their parents. Would it not be better to have parents you could honour and be proud of? It is up to you to make your parents how you want them to be. It requires a little patience as parents have ways that have set with time and will take time to change.
Counting our parents' virtues
Often as humans we get interested in picking out others' flaws forgetting that we have numerous ones of our own. Parents too have good and bad. Try and see the positive points while ignoring the faults and they too will learn to forgive your faults.
Appreciate and encourage your parents
All of us need encouragement and appreciation. When our efforts are acknowledged and praised we are inspired to carry on in the same good way. Appreciate your parents' efforts and they will try to do things you like.
Give your parents time and space
Parents require time of their own which they would like to use the way they want. If they are watching something interesting on TV you could skip your favourite serial once in a while. Do not always demand your rights. Giving them freedom means teaching them the value of freedom and they will give you your share of it.
Be grateful to your parents
You must be grateful that you have parents with you even if it is to quarrel with. Thank them for what they do for you. Being thankful makes them feel that their efforts have paid off. If dad works all day to provide for you thank him for doing so. Being grateful makes them feel valued and they too will value what you do for them.
Bridge the gap
We have heard of communication or generation gap between parents and kids. How often do teenagers go to their parents with their problems? Parents are always there for us, to help. If asked for advice they have a generation of experience behind them. They can be excellent counsellors. If you put your faith in them and share your feelings with them, they will begin to trust you. They will communicate more freely and openly.
Never betray or lie to them
If you want your parents to trust you, it is up to you to gain their trust. This is by being truthful and faithful. If you commit a mistake, tell them and say sorry. Being sorry and changing will show them that you want to be the way they would like you to be and they will try and be how you would like them to be. If you are getting late, call them and let them know where you are and with whom. Tell them the reason for your being late; so that the next time you're late, they'll trust you.
Be proud of your parents
Similarly, as we would like our parents to be proud of us, they would like us to be proud of them. Tell them your likes and dislikes. In a nice way, tell them what annoys you and ask them whether they could change it. Choose the right time to speak. When they are relaxed and willing to debate put your views forward. They could well be accepted and you could be lucky to have transformed parents.
